Technology Connection & Reality Disconnection

We are living in the times of technology. Which has gained us leaps & bounds in the way of information and access to EVERYTHING!

But this is by far not without casualties of reality.

Today there are more influences of what one wants than what one actually needs.

Nowadays perhaps there are more single people because they are forever looking online, facebooking, tweeting, instagramming and so on and so on …. Giving the idea that there is something better, shinier, and more exciting elsewhere.

This has an incredible impact on how reality is handled. Although it is not a bad idea to open your mind and explore the possibilities of furthering an education, learning about different cultures, or even checking out the current trends of life….

But to ignore the reality of what is actually within arms reach and disregard the daily tasks of living is a real disconnect.

Social media has a few married couples starting to think that they settled too soon, younger folks think social media is their next ticket to fast stardom, not to mention THE THIRST!!!! This encompasses a variety of people looking for anything and everything to feed the want to be seen, loved, acknowledged, validated, ect, ect, ect…..

Technology has become the be all to end all. Without it, we learned patience and diligence. With it we have convenience and instant gratification.

I’m not saying I’m not a fan because I surely appreciate living in an age where anything is available at the touch of a button but it is not without revelation that connecting through a mainframe will never be the same as connecting with one another in real-time with real life through real experiences.

When a friend went on to tell me how they were so caught up in Candy Crush that they almost got fired, I thought, DANG! When is too much, too much?! Another person told a story about their neighbor that hadn’t tended to their yard in months but is always sitting on their porch with a lap top… And the catalyst for this blog entry was when someone was telling me about how they would rather just buy their kids ipads & all that instead of helping them with homework or dealing with having to entertain them.

Connections to technology have really made it far too easy for a disconnection from reality.

With that being said, I’m logging off and going outside to play!

Shake a hand, give a hug, go and talk FACE to FACE with someone.

*cue Soul II Soul* …

back to life back to the present time
back from a fantasy
tell me now take the initiative
ill leave it in your hands until your ready

                         

Uncle Luke Doesn’t Approve of Wiz x Amber

Uncle Luke took time to call out Wiz Khalifa for messing with Kanye West’s damaged goods. In his mind there should be a code of honor where rappers don’t mess with other rappers exes. But as we all know, that code has fallen by the waste side.

“Wiz Khalifa needs to have his head examined. The boy behind the hit “Black & Yellow” has lost his mind over a woman interested only in hogging his spotlight. For months, Wiz has been dating former stripper Amber Rose, whose claim to fame is that her ex-boyfriend is Kanye West. Khalifa even tattooed the girl’s name on his hand. Now he’s beefing with Kanye because West dissed Amber at Coachella this past April and then, just recently, at the Essence Festival in New Orleans.

But Wiz Khalifa broke a cardinal rule in the rap game. You don’t date another rapper’s ex-girlfriend.

He is not alone. In Atlanta, Soulja Boy recently snatched Lil Scrappy’s girl.

Lil Wayne’s ex Toya Carter tied the knot with some rapper named Memphitz earlier this year.

They broke the bro code. See, when a rapper makes a commitment to one girl, he takes the relationship seriously. Rappers aren’t like celebrity football and basketball players, who pass around exes like mustard. You got Cincinnati Bengals wide receiver Chad Ochocinco dating Evelyn Losada, who was engaged to former Miami Heat forward Antoine Walker. Hell, some of these motherf*ckers don’t even wait for a breakup.

Television star Eva Longoria caught her man, San Antonio Spurs point guard Tony Parker, banging his teammate Brent Barry’s wife. Orlando Magic star Gilbert Arenas dumped his fiancée and baby mama Laura Govan after he caught her doing the dirty with Shaquille O’Neal. That is some incestuous shit. Despite the stereotypes, you rarely saw this kind of thing in hip-hop.

We rappers have always prided ourselves on not dating someone else’s ex-girlfriends or ex-wives. This will come as a shock to some people, but if we have a relationship, it’s with just one woman. Look at Jay-Z. He’s been committed to Beyoncé for some time. Will Smith, Run-D.M.C., Ice Cube, Ice-T, and I are other examples of loyal, dedicated husbands in hip-hop.

Wiz Khalifa, like some members of his generation, has gotten soft. They are losing their focus. They can’t spot a triflin’ woman in the room to save their lives.”

What do you think about it?

Mogul Style…Fatherhood

How Facebook Affects Relationships (Infographic)

Some of us just put too much info on Facebook. From where you are at, to how you can’t stand your on again/off again boyfriend. Facebook has become an alternate life for some people. And I am willing to bet that if they could, they would live in the Facebook universe, never coming out of their room for fresh air. And as you can probably imagine, the more time we spend in cyberspace, the more it is affecting our real world relationships.

How many of you are guilty of going out with your friends and spending most of the night updating your Facebook/Twitter post?

 

 

Online Dating

Lost Art Of Love Songs: Korey Bowie

Rarely do we hear a song or a poem in which Love is depicted as an integrated spiritual experience…I guess that’s why it’s good to have cats like K.B. around. If you’ve ever been in Love, then you’ve had a struggle in Love. This song is about getting through that. Try something new Moguls…I guarantee you’ll like it.

5 Bad Relationship Habits(Swipe)

By Bob Strauss

OK, so you used to be married and now you’re not. You may be out there happily dating, but are the habits from your wedded days dogging you? Consider the fact that when you’re married, you have the luxury of a long, indefinite “’til death do us part” future in which to settle into a comfortable routine or slowly work through issues with your spouse. On a date, though, everything happens in accelerated time, with equally accelerated consequences. An indelicate remark on your first rendezvous may forever put the kibosh on a second. In fact, there are five key behaviors left over from your married days that can wreak havoc on your current romantic forays. We asked Marty Friedman, author of Straight Talk for Men About Marriage, to discuss how to recognize — and get rid of — these bad habits so your love life can prosper.

Bad Habit #1: Never ending your arguments. One of the dubious perks of being married, Friedman says, is being able to “stomp out of the room, cool yourself down, and bring up the issue again a few days or weeks later — or let it fester forever.” While having a knock-down, drag-out argument with someone you’ve just started dating isn’t exactly a good sign, you don’t want to fall into the trap of thinking, “If I ignore the problem, it’ll just go away.” That just won’t cut it when you’re dating.
Tactic to try: The challenge now, says Friedman, “is to hang in there and keep the lines of communication open.” You want to work through the issue, not allow it to linger.

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The Father Factor: How Absentee Fathers Affect The Relationships Of Young Women(Swipe)

Rashana Hooks over at Bitchie Life chimes in on the how profoundly a father’s presence…or lack of it, can affect a young woman. Click the image for the story…

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